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Saturday, April 25, 2026

Then and then

 

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Life is a chain of events, I know that is true.  These happenings link up to form the past.  That is how it works, and wonderfully so.


What I desire for a while is a period of time in which the weeks are filled with simple day-to-day activities:  laundry, going to a movie, reading, and such. 

This past few years have been labeled “…And Then…” years.

When my mother started to decline, “…And Then…” started.  Each phone call and each visit always led to something more.  When Mom died in April 2011, I thought life would resume the laundry and movie routine.  But, it didn’t.

All those “…and then…” events occurred:  A broken ankle.  A fall/sprawl (broken ankle betrayed me).  Trips to far-off places.  Christmas and birthdays.  Serious illness and surgery (for my husband’s mother).  Subsequent care following. 

Then...my daughter fell, broke bones in her foot, had surgery, was ‘laid up’ for two months.  Then…my other daughter had a baby boy!

More trips to far-off places.  And then…

Maybe I am whining about life in general.  Maybe I am like my wee grandson who cries when he needs something, and it is up to his parents to figure out what that is. And then I would like to be picked up and cuddled by Mom. 

If I could push a “pause” button, I would. Should I?  Would you? 

 

13 comments:

  1. I hear you on that. My year has been much as you've describe (I finally wrote about it a few posts back -- issues since August! Yikes!) And also wrote about how much I miss my mom. Do we ever stop missing our moms? I don't think so. Whine away. Sometimes we have to -- and then we stop and find a bit of joy. I think it's just part of the cycle.

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    1. It is part of the cycle that everyone must have.

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  2. There are times I've wanted to push a pause button, too, Susan, but I know it's not possible. We simply have to roll with the "and then" moments, which are many. Blessings!

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  3. Pause is always a good idea. Then you can catch your breath. You definitely can use a hug. I am sending you a warm comforting hug. And then you can go back to handling your next and then.

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  4. In Catholic churches, on the walls, there are depictions known as Stations of the Cross. They show the journey of Christ from His arrest to His Crucifixion. On this journey, it is said that He fell three times because of the weight of the Cross and our sins. Each time He got up again. He could have died there and then. But He got up.

    Our journey in life is the same. We will fall often. But in our case, there's always Christ beside us helping us to get up.

    God bless.

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    1. Thank you so much. that is so true. I feel His hand in mine, wrapping around me, and carrying me.

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  5. I wouldn't push a pause button, the world would keep going without me and then I'd be too far behind to ever catch up.

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  6. It might be nice to pause for a day and just have time to breathe.

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  7. I feel for ya on this one. I've been quiet lately because my whines don't hold a beer to these...

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  8. It's nice to pause sometimes. We all need a break.

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  9. my and then, started in 2020 and I don't want a pause button, I want a rewind button and since neither will happen, I just trudge on holding on to the hand of the Rock.

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