S. pointed out that perhaps I should learn to take relationships less seriously, and just go out with someone for fun on the understanding that it's only temporary.
She also opines that there's a term for men who do this, which is Bastard; women however are Sluts.
Apparently society frowns upon sluts, but smiles on bastards.
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The difference between falling in love with someone, and being in love with them - the first is that thrill most of us are familiar with, manifested variously by tachycardia, sweaty palms, or just a great big swell of happy-happyness. Shrug. The second is either being happy around them and the ease with which time passes with them, or perhaps trauma at separation. It's different for everyone, methinks.
Re : falling in love, it's not all one-way I don't think, one doesn't usually feel anything much if someone who isn't special to you does something extraordinary for you. (Well, perhaps deep gratitude if they give a kidney or a life...)
Well, I don't, anyway. Probably not even for a kidney.
So that pikpokpikpok (a term the ex and her friends employed) isn't really just about you, but about two people. In short, chemistry.
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Ah ye gods, out of the mouths of babes.
First, it must be stressed that the advice re casual relationships was given on the understanding that said relationships are entered into on the basis of mutual understanding of no happily-ever-after and no one-great-love, just fun and comfort.
Second: bastard - shags and runs. No mutual understanding of any terms and conditions. Always male.
Slut - same as above, save for the ovaries. Somehow held in worse standing in society's eyes.
But remi, never ever do the bastard thing. Savvy?
laugh.
whatever turns my life takes, i'm pretty much programmed a particular way.
were i ever to have a tattoo, it would read : sempre fidelis.
In the west people are having ridiculous looking Chinese character tattoos. Back in Sg suddenly Latin is in, no?
*winks*
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