The Reality Blog

I can relate to Alcuin's explanation of the male feminist and their need for acceptance by the female sex. They actually remind me of Elliot's wish at being "The most sensitive man in the world"in Bedazzled.

One can also imagine a male feminist as being one of those overweight, scruffy malcontents, stumbling blindly down some darkened back street, staying in the shade, using chopping motions with their hands and muttering to themselves, secretly ofcourse, so no one else can be party to their imaginary revelations.  Being of the opinion that only they have been given the insight into feminism's Utopia, their holy grail and only they are the select few, proudly chosen to determine it's outcome, it's inevitable theoretical destination and they will be proudly counted as the semi elect, appointed to the position of altar boy in subservience to their high priestesses..

Affirming

If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times: One of the more irritating things about the matriarchy is the endless stream of manginas trying to talk some matriarchal sense into you, peacocking their own politically correct horseshit in front of the staffroom Frauen.

These men are desperate for outer affirmation, so try to get qualified as a feminist. One way they do that is with the this is what a feminist looks like game, where they publicly build their feminist portfolios through public shaming of men like you and me, men who don't need that same level of affirmation.

Public humiliation is not to be considered as a negative to their enlightened mindset. They are the blessed, they are the chosen, not bypassed as they eagerly volunteered their services by enhancing their cognitive dissonance levels, suitably enhanced to entertain their delusional lofty positions..

First, they are hungry for affirmation because they have the personality of a woman and therefore need some outer force or authority telling them what's what. While we all need this at times and to a certain extent, these guys need it as much as women do rather than the occasional pat on the back.

Second, they were brought up in a feminized environment, and tend to see the woman's point of view rather than their own. They have been brainwashed by the feminist educational system, in other words. Or traumatized. Masculine men, non-compliants, make them uneasy.

Third, they like to talk about their feelings about as much as women do. They particularly love the intoxication of getting angry over some cause. They crave that anger like the lassies do. They want and need the sanctimony. These guys have little on the inside, so fill it with emotions. Notice that emotional types tend not to be big thinkers, though they think of themselves as such. Instead of reasoning through a problem or a belief, they emote and sentimentalize their way through, which leads to useless or childish conclusions.

One can be left in no doubt at all that they are happy and content in their newly appointed positions, they no longer have to behave like a man but only be the pretend version, as long as it is interspersed with Elliot's sensitivity factor and continual obeisance to the female superior. Wishing above all that they will assume the female psyche just like they did back in the Hellenistic period.  They too will be able to assuage the Hellenistic personification of the soul of female, just like they have always dreamed and fantasized..
What ofcourse they do not realise or even comprehend is that there is a different aspect to their groveling abeyance..

The ladies sit back and chuckle to themselves, both at the loser they've manipulated into fighting their fight even though he gains only in his own mind, and at the man presently between the pathetic sights of the peacock.

The self absorption of the male feminist is that intense that they have failed to listen to the command of their masters, their very own feminist female leaders, who have repeatedly informed them to "fecke" off. But their only response is in their in utter disbelieve as they mutter "Hugo", as if that would have some magic affect. They hope they can use that chant to castaway any negatives they may have witnessed their masters have already undertaken. But it won't work, it's just not working, as that echo rebounds and only reminds them where they actually stand in the Matriarchy.. 

Fifth, being second-hand means being a useful idiot, because some puppeteer is pulling the strings. These guys like being the furniture mover for die Frauen because they believe in chivalry. Again, it's about shaky identity: I'm a nice guy, they need to tell themselves - even though, in fact, they practice knifing other men, strong self-formative men, in the back, and in public as part of their public campaign to belong to the cause.

The back-stabbing highlights the lack of honor they have, the fifth reason these guys are like this. A mangina has no honor. Matriarchy has no honor.

They will be remembered and history will align them to others of equal behaviour and treat them with that same disgust, distaste and repugnance..

This comment I found rather interesting as it describes what it takes to make a relationship work plus demonstrates how feminism's endless intrusion via government and laws, just guarantees that it won't. Take out the main factors from a relationship or marriage, something or somebody has to pay and it's generally the relationship itself..
 The endless hand-wringing that we read in the "Dear Joyce" columns use to be about finding a mate, but now it more about everything else. Primarily the search for the "Soul Mate" has been thrown into the bin as a waste of time while reality drags the dreamers back into reality. Some eventually realise that a relationship/partnership is not always about them and certain compromises are demanded whether you like it or not.
If you don't then it just a matter of going your own way and either adhering to that or repositioning yourself back onto the "dating" market in pursuit of the next mistake..

The main issue being that women have changed, they changed to suit themselves without any consideration on their part about what men want or would like in a female. They in turn have responded with "Here I am, take me as I am, take it or leave it" and now they are finding a response they never expected. That response being "No Thanks". This is what all that complaining is about..

Sometimes the obvious lessons are the hardest to learn, while blame can be redirected very easily. Many a time have I spoken to ex partners who live in the regret that they screwed up a good working relationship because they felt it was not a working proposition or could have been better or it just was not what they expected. Rather than take the hard road by fixing it, they take the easy road and end it as   that can always justify it in their own minds..
Taking anything for granted is not a lesson learnt until it's gone and after that eventuation, it becomes an all consuming problem, that just won't let go. Continual self scrutiny and continual reminders mixed with thoughts of regret stay with you for a long time. Many have been there and many more will end up there as well.. 

The song "You don't what you've got until it's gone" is a lot more meaningful and ironic when it applies to some past relationship that went the way of the dodo and did so without any effort on your part. It can turn into an unrelenting cycle as it's pursuit appears to be more important than the end result..

So here is a response to the view of replacing the "patriarchy" with the "Matriarchy" and then living in denial about replacing one level of control with another. A bit like "Welcome the new boss who is just like the old boss"..




 Why Not Matriarchy? 
Women can raise families communally without men, but it’s a bad idea.
By Lea Halim

This response it the above article..

tyhmaplanet

Good grief! I suppose I've just grown old and apart from what's goofed up in this world. I don't understand it and I'm not sure I want to understand it. Having a good marriage has everything to do with love and sacrifice, and I feel it necessary to add, between a man and a woman. Here's a little story that tells a tale. There once was a little four-year-old boy, whose mother dumped him on her parents after deciding her second marriage wasn't satisfactory and who decided to return to her first husband. He took her back for a little while, but not in marriage, just in sex. She'd had two children by him, but they, like the four she'd had by her second husband, ended up with her parents. She wandered about promiscuously until she happened upon her third husband, by whom she had another two children, who were also principally raised by other people. She married a fourth time at age sixty, but, for obvious reasons, had no children. This last marriage was annulled after six months. The mother barely participated in raising any of her eight children. Now, this four-year-old became a five-year-old and was taken in by a saintly aunt, sister to his, by now, drunken, bumpkin father. She and her hard-working husband raised him until he was ten, teaching him good principles for living, training him in good behaviors, and instilling an understanding that such a thing as faith and a being called God existed. At ten years of age, he wanted to go live with his drunken, bumpkin father, which didn't work out, so he ended up in a few other relative's homes until he was fourteen, at which time he and his sister went to live with their still drunken, bumpkin father. Now, this was not a good time period in either of their lives. Many untoward experiences occurred, all of it laced with alcohol and other vices. Still, he'd had his saintly aunt's and her husband's influence, which wasn't easily doused, even in a debauched environment. One day, he met a young girl, or, rather, she caught sight of him. She was twelve and he was fifteen. He had no interest in her, but she said many times througout her life that she never had an interest in any other man. A few years later, they were married. Being inspired by his love for a good woman, the boy became a man, changed his ways and they raised eight children together, and were the forbears of 35 grandchildren, more than 70 great-grandchildren and more than 20 great-great-grandchildren by the time he passed away after 71 years of happy, struggling, difficult, wonderful, joyful marriage. They had four sons, who are all on their first marriage, the first having been married forty-six years, the second thirty-nine, the third thirty-six, and the fourth thirty-seven years. Their four daughters were not all as successful, yet, the oldest has been married to her only husband for forty-nine years, the second had two failed marriages, which were a result of poor choices fueled by rebelliousness, the third had one divorce that was later rectified when the two remarried, and the last has been married to her only husband twenty-eight years. Much of the early part of this story took place during the period leading up to and into the Prohibition Era, which gave birth to a lot of "freedom" and "promiscuity" for women, as well as men, which all perhaps led to the Great Depression, and which may have played a part in these events and outcomes. It's also of interest to note that many of the grandchildren are experiencing some of the negative outcomes seen in the lives of the drunken, bumpkin father and his promiscuous ex-wife. This, all in a period not unlike the teens and twenties of the last century - unparalleled prosperity and leisure, woman screaming for more freedom and getting it, but this time with help of federal laws that tend to relegate males to the status of unimportant sidekicks, and much of a couple of generations expecting to do nothing while someone else does it for them. This generation, like their forbears, were raised by good parents, who taught them well. So why the trouble? Since World War II, as in the early part of the twentieth century, women and men have been increasingly freed from hard, physical work. They have many hours of leisure to enjoy the benefits of a prosperity that is, at least in part, technologically enabled. There is a declining faith in him whose blessing it is. Gratitude is an increasingly scarce attribute, often supplanted by arrogance and self-centeredness. This is a seemingly inescapable result of extended prosperity. Does a woman want a good man with whom to marry and have a family? I believe most do. Then, treat men like men and demand manhood. Stop trying to replace them with you. Stop trying to fill a man's role and try being a woman. It may work. It just may, but it must be a societal change and government must stop being a partner in demeaning manhood and womanhood. Yes, there are good men out there, but, I'm afraid, they're growing scarce. Feminism with the cooperation of government and socialists are doing their best to wipe them out. We need traditional roles. If you want a successful 71 years together, take my word for it, you won't get it by competing with your spouse, or with the opposite gender. You get it by lovingly cooperating and working together, sacrificing for one another and the family you create, filling roles for which each of you is divinely endowed with unique and wonderful traits. It just gets more confusing does it not. The thing is that none of it is new. The is nothing new under the sun as the saying goes. It's all been tried before and it always changes back to what works the best. What was working best is what feminists have spent the last forty years trying to destroy. So it's just another cycle and another wasted effort tryig to force the population to change and a few elitists as usual are responsible for all the chaos.  Welcome to the new/old world.. Hat tip to Elusive Wapiti for this article and the link..

You know on the odd occassion that somebody states something and you shake your head thinking "what, how the hell do you ever come to that conclusion". Well may you ask, as I have located another one of those brainsnaps, one that the ability to create incredulity..

"I'm sure she'll make a wonderful mum and will teach her children discipline like I have."

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/3753913/Sexy-pics-at-12-pregnant-at-15-and-her-proud-mums-delighted.html 

Sexy pics at 12, pregnant at 15 ...and her proud mum delighted | The Sun |News 

A SCHOOLGIRL who posed aged 12 for controversial bikini pictures in a magazine is now pregnant at 15 - to the joy of her mum.The shots of Soya Keaveney outraged parents, who blasted mum Janis for fuelling the youngster's obsession with a modelling career.But now that dream is on hold after Soya got pregnant by a 17-year-old boyfriend who is allowed by Janis to stay overnight at the family home. 

Jobless single mum Janis, 48, said she was delighted because the council will now have to give her a bigger house.She added: "Our three-bedroom place was already overcrowded with her sisters Coco and Ritzy, her brother Tarot, Soya's boyfriend Jake and one of her sister's babies."Once the new baby comes the council will have to find us a place with four or five bedrooms."We've already started packing. Soya's very much against abortion and there was never any doubt she would keep her baby.

"I'm sure she'll make a wonderful mum and will teach her children discipline like I have."

Have we created a Matriarchy that is bankrupting nations, abusing children?
by

BobV01

  

I can envision men reading this crossing their legs, wringing their hands uncomfortably almost whining: I hope they read the rest of this, check out the links, STOP, breathe and then reflect: the truth is in the studies. We have for decades lazily subscribed to urban myth even though lies have been proven and dispelled: Warshak

Apparently the Jewish community is concerned with a dwindling male membership The end of Jewish Men are not the Protestant and Catholic Communities facing the same situation?
Not all single mothers are sadistic but images of Britney, Lindsey and Casey should wake us up a little simply look up female violence on You Tube . “‘Oh say it is not true” exclaim the gentlemen twisting in their seats, perhaps, but this material is not made up Bringing Attention to Abuse By Females it is true Google has tried to censor such material as hate speech preferring homosexual friendly comments (sorry their editorial preference and a true statement simply ask bloggers).
All mothers probably are not that violent despite the ones we have seen grabbing their children by the arm in the grocery store, we do know (even if we are afraid to discuss it) at least some moms utilize the electronic babysitter, we have been talking about it for decades, but could it lead to this: Should parents of obese kids lose custody?

• We know Fathers petition Courts for custody, joint custody, shared custody, parenting time, access to their children everyday, and, everyday leave the Court Room broken hearted despite the evidence demonstrating the criticality of fathers to their children’s development, Forum

• Wisdom Library

• Facts and Figures

• Essential
 There are only about one hundred and six entries there

You could also try Research there are only thirty-eight hyper-linked references there.
The Public Broadcast System actually airs programming that touches upon religion, last weekend I listened to a Catholic Bishop lamenting the injury upon all of those poor families that the current budget debacle will cause. I am certain the Bishop truly had in mind social injustice to less fortunate people _ I truly believe the Bishop had no conception at all he really is lamenting a minor loss in funding for the enabling of single mother homes whilst depriving children of their fathers.
There is no logic in promoting Fatherhood whilst denigrating Fathers. There is no logic in promoting a social system that separates children from their fathers whilst costing America three hundred thirty-six billion dollars annually Sex, money…and national bankruptcies.
Perhaps no one really cares enough to have read this far, or someone is yawning, or instead of twisting in their seat someone has urinated, can we seriously imagine grown adults so afraid of women, they are afraid to read this?
Mothers are sacred, mothers are scary, what am I thinking, well I am not the happiest camper in the entire world but I am not alone; Mother’s Day 2011: not so Purdy – Americas’s PBS documentary, Mother, mother, where are you?, Another Broken Heart truth to tell this is but a minor glimpse of the anecdotal evidence.
As the men continue to cringe I can imagine someone uttering a derogatory remark. Do we even know how to educate males STOP, please do not be so sure about yourself, have you read anything found here: Michael Gurian , any of these Books for Fathers .
Do we really know what we are advocating for: In the matter of: pornography v, romantic fantasies , Parental Alienation In our good do we do bad 
Long letter, nothing is simple, our children deserve their Fathers, our Boys deserve to be treated for who they are, our Congregations, Synagogues and Parishes deserve participation from both sexes.