Off-Topic Tuesday: Let's Put an End to Bullying!

I've heard it said in the past few years that bullying of children and teens has reached epidemic proportions. As far as I'm concerned, bullying has always been an epidemic. The difference is that now, at last, we are starting to discover the harsh consequences of bullying.

Children and teens have always had a certain amount of gang mentality, but it does seem that because of the increase of actual gangs, the bullying may be more dangerous than it was when I was a young woman.

I can't tell you how much I dislike the "kids will be kids" mentality that so many adults have about bullying. I've seen it in parents, I've seen it in some teachers, and I've even seen it in the Principal's office.

While it may be true that kids will be kids, I don't understand why parents don't take the time to sit their children down and explain to them how harmful bullying can be.

There's also the "it will make a man out of him" mentality that some parents have. I will never comprehend that one.

I also don't understand why some parents don't teach their children that it's not okay to make fun of someone just because they're different.

Children who are smarter than the others, heavier than the others, less athletic than the others, socially awkward, children who are perceived as unattractive, or those who do not fit the gender norm are all easy prey for bullies.

It's easy to understand when children are young and don't know any better that they may think that bullying is okay, but I really believe that by the time they are well into elementary school, they should thoroughly understand the consequences of bullying.

This is where I think a lot of parents are dropping the ball. I don't think that many parents actively condone bullying (although I know for a fact that some do), however, they don't speak up enough and teach their children to accept others' differences.

A young person whom I love very much was bullied due to a health issue. The bullying became so bad that there were threatening phone calls made, harmful pranks and on occasion, beatings.

When the parents of the bullies were confronted with their children's behaviour, they made excuses for their children rather than agreeing that their children's actions were wrong.

The school's stance was not very helpful to the bullied child either.

Fortunately, this child's health improved and soon the child was off to a new school and was able to have a fresh start. Many children are not that fortunate.

With the rash of teen suicide that are going on, I really believe that we all need to take a more active role in raising awareness of the consequences of bullying.

I would like to see parents taking responsibility for their children's actions. I would like to see more anti-bullying awareness take place in the school systems starting at an early age. I would like to see the schools take more action when bullying occurs.

Some people survive bullying and become strong, self-confident individuals. For some people, the self-esteem lost due to bullying never recovers. For others, it becomes too unbearable for them to face another day and they make a terrible choice to use a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

I urge everyone to really talk to your kids about these issues and for heaven's sake, take it seriously, whether your child is being bullied or whether your child is the bully. Because it really is serious.


Okay, I'm off the soap box now. On an entirely different note, I wrote my first entry in my new movie blog. I've put the link in this post, but there's also a link under my profile photo. If you're interested in movies, you may find it interesting. I'd love to hear any thoughts or suggestions that you may have.


It's been another beautiful, warm and sunny day today. This is truly dream weather. In the spirit of my topic today, I'm going to show some photos of my cat Q and her arch-nemesis, my dog Barclay, doing their part to get along.

'Til tomorrow, my friends. Much love to all.

Off-Topic Tuesday: Weather, Pets, and Other Things

Well, it's the first full day of summer, and here in my part of Southern Ontario, it's been nothing if not unpredictable. It's been very hot, sunny and humid for the past few days, but there have been thunderstorms in frequent intervals throughout.  It's hard to know from one hour to the next whether it will be sunny and cloudless, or if the thunderstorms will start. Black clouds invade the blue sky almost without warning. While thunderstorms are hard on me migraine-wise, they are beautiful to look at, and it's very cool to have to turn on the lights in midday, just in order to see properly.  It's especially cool when the rain, thunder and lightning suddenly stops, and the sun comes out in full again.

I honestly don't know what we'd do without air conditioning.  While the A/C does remove some of the humidity, it's surprising how much humidity remains in the house, and how it affects my middle-aged body.  Even when the temperature is steady in the house, as it is with central A/C, it's really easy to work myself into a hot flash with minimal exertion when it's so humid.

I often wonder what it would be like to live somewhere with dry heat and no humidex. I suppose there is good and bad to both.  One thing for sure, my skin doesn't dehydrate the way it would if it were dry.

I notice that even with the constant temperature in the house my dog Barclay is panting more than usual, so I guess it effects him as well. As I write this, the cat just walked past the dog, and as usual, she gave him a hiss, and as usual, he just ignores it good naturedly.  One might think that after three years of living together, the cat might give up on the hissing, as it clearly goes unnoticed, but that's just her way, where the dog's concerned.

The pets are both sensing something is about to happen. They seem a bit more alert and excited than usual.  And they're right.  My daughter is coming home later this week, and the family is expectant and excited and the pets seem to be as well. She lives 300 miles/ 500 km away, so the visits are more rare than they would be if she only lived an hour away.  I am really looking forward to this visit, and I hope we have some good quality time to chat and have fun, She does have some events to attend, so she won't be here every day, but we'll have enough time together. We always manage that.

Thinking about the cats, as I was earlier, I always wonder what the attraction is for them with a clean basket of laundry. I'll leave you with a couple of photos of our cat, Q, enjoying some time getting comfy in the clean laundry.

Love to all.

'Til tomorrow, my friends.

Off-Topic Tuesday

Well, it's Tuesday, and I am taking a day off from thinking about hair.  I'm going to show a couple of photos of The Best Dog In The World, my dog Barclay.

The first photo is of Barclay enjoying himself out on the front lawn in the dew one night.  The second photo is sort of hair related, as he is photographed in typical Long Hair Community hair photo pose.

Tomorrow, I'll be discussing how I first learned to style long hair without heat appliances.  I was 45 before I knew how to even use a hair stick.

Hope you enjoy the doggy pics.