A title is supposed to be short and sweet, and to the point, not a blinkin' essay in its own right, but some people don't seem to understand that.

Enough said.

Sit not with mockers

There's one (or more) in every office. The sourfaced pessimist with bitterness dripping from his every word. The one who feels like he has scored when he makes you feel like you have made the biggest mistake in taking up this job. You can picture him snickering and rubbing his hands in glee when he sees your confidence falter and your little bubble burst - or shrink a wee bit smaller.

But then there are also those little rays of positivity who nudge you on with encouragement. The ones who believe in you. And the one who moves you forward with wise words:

Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. - Psalms 1:1-2

And for those lovely people I am thankful.

Complaining about not complaining

Sometimes people tend to think the worst of things.

I found that sometimes they tend to interpret the things I say and turn it into something vile. It's annoying.

Like for example:

It's been raining. I am trudging along a soggy patch in a field. I bump into a friend. "It's so muddy," I said. Trust me I am just stating a fact. A neutral fact. Nothing more.

And what I get is an admonishment for complaining. It's like an uncalled for slap in the face.

The question is, was I complaining?

If I was, I would not be just commenting, "It's muddy". I may have added a harsh word or two and glared at the mud with such intensity it would turn solid again.


Example number two:

A friend is commenting on girls who wear heels. Why do they prefer to wear heels instead of flats?

I suggest simply, because they're short.

You're so bad, he says.

What is so bad about that? Just because I am tall and I am saying others are short, am I making fun of them? What is wrong with being short? What if I prefer to be short? Better centre of gravity. And you can wear high heels without towering over guys. ;P

Does saying certain word immediately mean you are complaining or being unkind?

Don't be so fast in jumping to conclusion.

Be positive mar...