When we got to the hospital they got us settled into a room, (I was wondering if it was the same one we had with Timber.) Really I think all our rooms for babies have been close to that room though. I recognized the nurse that was getting us all set up in the room, she had been my after delivery nurse with Timber! We'll call her nurse M. She said she had moved down to labor and delivery a few months ago. She was only the nurse getting us set up in the room though, our nurse was busy when we got there so she was helping out. The girl that was going to be my nurse got there right as it was time to put the iv in. We'll call her nurse B. I know both their names, just not sure if I'm supposed to keep their names private, so we'll go for their initials! Nurse M asked nurse B if she wanted her to start the iv for her, nurse B said sure. I like it better when the iv is in my left arm, cuz I barely move my arm when it has an iv in, it really bugs me, ha! I also have this weird thing with being equal, Hunter and Timber I had asked them to put it in my left arm, but with Aspen I had been having a shy moment and hadn't asked so they put it in my right arm. So my weird equal thing took over and I didn't ask them to put it in my left arm so that I would have equal scars, yes I'm weird, but I also figure that's the side they like to do it on because that's how the room is set up anyways. As nurse M started to do my iv it became apparent that she isn't as familiar with doing iv's as nurse B, because she had to keep asking nurse B questions and if it looked ok, nurse B had her test it and quickly said nope! She had blown my vein. I've never had that happen before, all the other nurses have never had a problem getting my iv's in first try. When she took the iv out, she commented that I was a bleeder, which I hadn't had that comment with any of my other pregnancies, but had also gotten that comment when I had gotten my whooping cough shot with this pregnancy, weird. Since she had blown my vein she had to switch to my left arm, which really for functionability is really better for me anyways. She got the next one in just fine. And yes my tiny iv scars are off balance haha! Really not a big deal at all, 2 on one arm and 3 on the other, and way too small for anyone but me to even notice! After she got the iv in nurse M left us in nurse B's care.
Nurse B asked me if I had had breakfast before she turned the pitocin on. I told her about my granola bar and she tried to convince me to let her get me some breakfast, but I still just had too many knots in my stomach to even think about eating breakfast. When she checked me she said that she was having a hard time feeling babies head, that baby was still up kind of high, she said "see how I can bounce baby like a basketball," just what I wanted her to be doing while she was checking me! Ha! She then explained that the doc would have to wait until baby came down more before he could break my water otherwise the umbilical cord could come out first and "that's when me and you would get really comfy." She would have to hold it in if that happened, so ya we were definitely hoping for baby to come down where it should be! This first check had already given me a lot of confidence in nurse B! With Timber the nurse said she couldn't really feel Timbers head and so we had had to wait until my doctor could come over and do a 10 sec ultrasound to make sure she was head down. So when nurse B couldn't feel for sure with this baby I thought we were going to have to wait for the doc again, but she knew just what to do to get baby down where she could make sure it was a head so that we could start the pitocin. We started the pitocin at 10:30 and I was already a 4. I had already had several contractions since they had hooked me up to the monitors and before they had started the pitocin, so talking with nurse B we were hopeful for a pretty quick labor. I told her how long the others had been and that they had all happened around shift change so I doubted it, but that I would love it if it happened! She said that most labors get faster each time, so she was hopeful for baby to be her by 3 or 4, since Timber came in 7 hours. That sounded wonderful to me... that's not what happened though!
We ended up absolutely loving nurse B! She was a traveling nurse so is only at each place for a few months before she goes to another place that needs her. She was doing this to put her hubby through school, he was also a labor and delivery nurse (what?? I guy labor and delivery nurse?? She wasn't surprised at all at our surprise at that!) He was going back to school to become a nurse practitioner. They had little kids and this was the first year that their oldest was in school. When she signed on for this hospital they agreed to keep her for the school year so that she wouldn't have to move her daughter during the year. She has worked in a bunch of different places, Hawaii being one of them! I thought being a traveling nurse sounded so crazy at first, but the more we talked to her about it the cooler it sounded! Although they were ready for her hubby to be done with school so that they could settle down and buy a home now that their kids were in school.
When I told her that I was hoping to not get an epidural she was very supportive. She gave me a bunch of advise and kept saying "we can do this!" I really felt like she was on our "team!" I haven't ever had a problem with any of my other nurses, but Nurse B is by far my favorite! I asked her if she had had any of hers without an epidural, she snorted out a laugh and said, "NO!" Then proceeded to tell us that she had thought of maybe trying not to, but knew her hubby wouldn't be able to handle seeing her in pain, so it was just better all around for her to get the epidural. But if I wanted to do it without she would help me through it! She was great! We also still didn't have a name picked out for boy or girl, we were leaning towards Meadow for a girl and Ben really wanted Terrain for a boy (since I vetoed his Trip and Trail) but every time he said it all I could think was "Choo, Choo!" I liked how it looked written out, but it just sounded to close to train for me. I kind of liked Canyon, and still really wanted Easton, but Ben vetoed Easton, he has a cousin with a boy named Easton. Nurse B kept coming up with names and ideas for us. She even talked a little hunting with Ben. She also polled all the other nurses for what names they liked that fit with our other names. Quite often when she would come to check on me she would have another name for us to think about.
My doctor wasn't able to come check on me until 12:30. And baby had moved down far enough that he was able to break my water then. It was the most unpleasant water breaking of all my kids! He kept trying to break it and it just wasn't wanting to break! With most of my others I really could just feel tugging, so it was just awkward not painful. But with this one it kind of hurt, and since it wasn't breaking very easily he kept pushing on my belly trying to help it break with the pressure too. Once he finally got it to break he let me know that I was a 5 almost a 6 and so far things were looking good!
Ben left to get lunch right after he broke my water. Nurse B told him that if he wanted to get lunch now was the time and to be quick about it because labor should pick up pretty quickly now that my water was broken. I watched the game show network most of the morning and throughout Ben being gone, he really was very quick! And up until that point the labor hadn't been bad. Like nurse B said, it did start to pick up. I felt it a lot in my lower back! As the contractions got stronger I had to have Ben push on my back to help counter the pain. I had to keep asking Ben to push harder, and then when the contraction would end we would just kind of look at each other. In between some of the contractions I asked him if he was having to push very hard, and he said that he was pushing as hard as he could and was having to get leverage by pushing his foot against the couch. Nurse B could see that it was wearing Ben out to push on my back (I was having him do it every contraction) and took several turns doing it instead. I appreciated that, but she really couldn't push as hard as Ben, so it was better when he did it, but I didn't say anything. I hate the feeling on leaking, so I pretty well was staying in bed unless I had to use the bathroom. As the contractions got worse nurse B suggested walking around the room a little and gave me underwear and a pad (why has no one ever offered that to me before???) The underwear and pad made me a lot happier than she probably knew! I'm not really a wanderer, so walking around the room just seemed kind of awkward to me, but I did it anyways hoping it would help. Ben would pretty well stay by my side and let me lean into him and hold me while I had contractions. My walking around was making it hard to monitor baby so after a little bit of wandering nurse B had me lay on my side for a little while so that she could make sure that baby was doing ok. Babies heart rate had gone down a little, so she had me stay on my side and gave me oxygen for a bit. She also checked me again and I was at a 7. I don't know if everyone is always hooked up to a blood pressure cuff, or if it's just because I get high blood pressure, but every time it would check my blood pressure I could like feel my blood pumping in my arm where the vein had blown, I did not love that feeling. I kept imagining blood squirting out of my arm there, and when I took the cotton off later it did have a lot of blood on it, a lot more than any of my other iv's ever had! After babies heart had calmed down for a while nurse B let me get up again and she brought a labor ball for me to try. Again I just felt super awkward bouncing on the thing, but she said it helps some women, so I gave it a go. After a while she had me lay in bed to monitor baby again and check me. I was still a 7. The time she had been hopeful for us to have baby by was quickly passing, which didn't surprise me, but was a bummer anyways. Since babies heart rate would go down sometimes she put a monitor in babies head so they could keep better track of it. They had to do this kind of monitor when I had Hunter too, so I wasn't too worried about it. When she checked me and I was still a 7 I was pretty discouraged. Nurse B kept being very encouraging though and talked through a few options to try to help things along and hopefully help relieve the contractions or at least distract from them, we ended up deciding on a shower. Really labor and everything about it is just super awkward. Yes again, I just felt awkward being in the shower, especially since the doc came to check on me while I was in there! He didn't come in the bathroom, that probably came out wrong. But since he was coming to check on me I ended my shower (by the way Ben was right there on the other side of the curtain holding my hand through every contraction while I was in the shower) and got dried off and back into my robe (is that what they are called??) I climbed back into the bed and nurse B changed all the monitor straps to dry ones for me. Up until this point she had kept commenting on how I was still smiling through the contractions, but I had now become very quiet. I don't think I spoke once to Ben while I was in the shower. It was really hurting and I just kept hoping the shower was doing something and that baby was going to come soon! I was just really hoping that the shower had gotten me past a 7! I also knew that if I talked I would end up saying how much it was hurting and I knew if I voiced that that I would be done. In the shower I had thought as long as I'm past a 7 now I can do this! Shortly after my dry monitors got put back on my doctor came back to check me... I was a 7 +. Seriously! I think everyone in the room could feel the change in me, and probably see the defeat in my eyes.
I didn't say anything until after both my doctor and nurse B left the room. I was standing up and just leaned into Ben and said, "This sucks." And started to cry a little, I had wanted so bad to not have an epidural, but I was so tired! So tired that I would fall asleep for a few seconds in between contractions standing up leaning against Ben. All I wanted was to sleep and not be hurting anymore. Like I said I knew that if I voiced my frustrations that I wouldn't be able to keep going, and the second I said those 2 words to Ben I knew I was giving up. It was hard to swallow my pride, but I knew I was too tired to deal with the pain any longer. When nurse B came back to check on me, I think she could tell I was giving up just by the look on my face. She did tell me that she thought the shower had done more good than I thought, but that it was up to me what I wanted. I kind of think she felt bad for me, I think she saw and felt my frustration. I did end up saying to go ahead with the epidural though. The anesthesiologist was in with a c-section when I told her I wanted the epidural so I had to wait about an half hour. It's weird how once you have decided to get the epidural the contractions feel so much worse! Ha! I just laid in bed not saying anything just feeling super grumpy and trying to deal with the contractions until the anesthesiologist could come.
I swear this anesthesiologist took a lot longer to get all his stuff ready than the others! He really wasn't super friendly, and since I was just done with everything I don't think I was very sociable to him. Also because of my not so pleasant experience with getting the epidural with Aspen, and then jumping with Timber, I was pretty nervous about getting the epidural. He chatted with me about why I was nervous and I told him about both of those and he said he would do his best. This experience was definitely better than the girls, but I felt it a lot more than with Hunter and was having some pretty good contractions throughout the whole thing too. I think he was probably going slow since I was so nervous, but it really felt like it took him FOREVER to get it in! Once he did and they had me settled back on my bed, then I turned super sweet again, haha! I'm pretty sure I told him he was awesome! For those few seconds right after getting the epidural all the tension in the room melted away. When I got my epidural with Hunter I fell asleep for an hour then woke up and it was time to push, I was really hoping the same thing would happen this time. But babies heart rate was kind of struggling right after the epidural, so I got rotated onto my side and oxygen mask hooked up to my face, and it stayed there the rest of the time. It was about 5:00 when I got the epidural and when nurse B checked me right after I was to an 8.
It really probably was a good thing that I ended up getting the epidural, even with me feeling completely relaxed babies heart rate was still having a hard time, so they were watching the monitors really closely. The combination of exhaustion and the oxygen mask slightly blowing air into my eyes I couldn't hardly keep them open. But if I slept at all it wasn't much, maybe a few minutes here and there. Shortly after things settled down from getting the epidural and getting settled down a certain way and oxygen on, shift change hit. That new nurse wouldn't leave me alone! I know it's her job to ask all the questions and get up to date on what's going on with me, but I was so tired! I just wanted her to leave me alone! She didn't though. After she went through all of that she asked if she could check me and sure enough it was time to have a baby!
On all my others when they have said that it's time I've gotten a surge of energy, not this time. I didn't care. I was exhausted and just wanted to be left alone. I didn't ever voice any of that, but in all their hustle and bustle to get everything ready for when the doc arrived I was still trying to ignore them and sleep, haha! When the doc got there he took a poll of everyone to see if they thought baby was going to be a boy or a girl. I think it was about half and half. The doc told Ben that he was in charge of calling it out! He also asked me how big our other babies were and as I told him their weights, I told him that I thought this baby seemed bigger. He felt my belly and said he was guessing for at least 8 lbs! And with that we were ready, or they were ready. I was still so tired that I didn't even think to tell them that I felt super uncomfortable and really wanted help getting shifted up a little (got to love not having enough control to move myself up.) As the contractions would hit and they would tell me to push I know I didn't have as much force behind my pushes as I did with my others. With my others I was going to get the thing out! With this baby it was more like fine, I guess I'll do it so you'll leave me alone. But I really couldn't decide if I was doing much, and I'm still not convinced that I really did much of the work. It definitely seemed like the doc was "helping" more than he had to on the others. I'm not sure how long it took to push baby out, I know it was longer than the others because of my slacker pushes, but it still wasn't very long. As baby came out, there was like a pause as everyone was checking parts, then Ben said "It's a boy!" with a little excited hop! That's when I finally came out of my tired stupor and said "Really!" I don't think I had realized how much I was hoping this was a boy for Ben (he really wanted another son) until it was a boy and there was a sense of relief! Not to mention my patriarchal blessing says I would have sons and daughters! We were feeling like 4 was a good number for us, but I knew if it was a girl then I was supposed to have another!
They asked if I wanted to do skin to skin before we had baby and I had said "I don't know, I guess... They get washed off first though, right?" They told me that they clean them up a bit yes. So after we had him they cleaned him a little then snuggled him into me.
He still had quite a bit of the white stuff on him (which I think is so
gross!) I instantly asked if they were going to clean him off more and
they told me that they have found it's better to leave it on, but when
we get up to the mom and baby unit they can wash it all off if I want.
There was a lot of it around his nose and it was really stressing me out
that he couldn't breath, so the second they weren't looking I used his
blanket to try to at least get it out of his nose!
It's amazing how instantly you fall in love with your baby! One of the first things I noticed on him was that he has a butt chin! Now that my baby has one, I really think there's got to be a better term for it! It sounds terrible!
Once they left us to snuggle our baby for a little bit we called our kiddos and let them know that they had a new brother! Since it was close to bed time we decided to not have them come meet him that night. We also talked to my mom about Aspen, and she still wasn't feeling well, so they hadn't ended up taking her to school. They said she seemed OK in the morning but as the day went on she kept getting worse and worse.
That's a happy daddy right there!
Our doctor was right! He was 8 lbs 6 oz! More than a pound bigger than our next biggest baby!
He has tons of hair!
Ben couldn't hardly wait to send out a text that we had a boy! Our phones were buzzing like crazy for like an hour after we had him, it was kind of driving me crazy! Everyone was asking his name, which we still hadn't decided on, so they were sending a million suggestions, I just wanted to throw the phone out the window. I didn't touch my phone until we had gotten to our mom and baby room and had eaten dinner and Ben had fallen asleep. Up until that point Ben had been texting both of our families on both of our phones. Once things settled down I took this picture and sent it to Brandi to show her all his hair.
In the morning our nurse asked if I wanted her to give him his bath now. I was very excited to have him all cleaned up! She even did his hair! So of course I had to send this picture to Brandi to show his hair off even better!
Check it out! It's so full all over his head!
Funny story, my nurse when she saw who I had listed for my babies doctor said that she hadn't seen him in years and wondered if he would just send one of the other doctors that work with him in instead. He's a family practitioner and he used to also deliver babies but has stopped doing OB visits. He has been Ben's doctor for most of his life and was the doctor that stitched up Ben's knee when he cut it open with a saw before his mission. So I don't know if that's why he came or maybe we are just the only ones that still have him as our babies doctor instead of a pediatrician, but he did come. And he picked up our baby boy and said, "8 pound baby, 10 pound head!" Then after checking baby out asked me how I was doing, haha! I hadn't even torn, yay!
During the day there was a student nurse that would come in with our regular nurse. The student was a guy and you could tell he felt super awkward being in a mom and baby unit! Since Kira recently had gone through the nursing program I figured his program was probably similar to hers and he probably didn't get to pick where he did his clinicals! Anytime my nurse would check me he would stand far away, which I appreciated. He did make the comment to Ben that he had only ever been on his side of having babies, not this side and it was definitely different, haha!
From the moment the sun came up I was ready to leave! I don't sleep well at the hospital and I was still super tired! Ben seemed like he slept decent, but I really didn't. Baby was also sleepy and was having a hard time staying awake long enough to nurse. Since our nurse hadn't really seen him nurse very well she was a bit nervous to let us go. She ended up giving me a nipple shield because he was really struggling on one side way worse than the other. I had had to use a nipple shield with Hunter in order to heal up, so I didn't really think anything of it. The lactation specialist came and chatted with me a little and was concerned about the nipple shield, but then when I told her my history with nursing my other 3 successfully for a year each she seemed to be fine. Finally our baby was nursing pretty good and our nurse happening to come in when he was so felt better about letting us go home. But we still had to wait for the test results of his bilirubin and needed to fill out the birth certificate form... which meant we needed to pick a name! The entire time waiting for the bilirubin test results we were discussing names, and finally not long before we left we finally decided and wrote it down:
Hoyt Emery Ewell
Hoyt is the brand of bow that Ben shoots (and he likes to point out also me, even though I haven't shot mine in years.) And Emery is Ben's middle name.
When we got the bilirubin test results they were a little high. They seemed to think I would just know what that meant and what to do, but none of mine had had it come back high, so they had to explain what would happen next to me. We would have to take him in to get it tested again the next several days in a row and to keep him in indirect sunlight as much as possible, then hopefully the numbers would go down. If they didn't we would have to come back to the hospital and put him in lights to help it. They said it wasn't super high, just high enough that they wanted to watch it and make sure it didn't go up.
It was late afternoon when we were finally free to go home! We didn't end up having any visitors come to the hospital. I actually really liked that it was just me and Ben and Hoyt, it was just so peaceful. He looks so tiny in his seat! Even though he was quite a bit bigger than any of our other babies! This is the same car seat we used for both the girls, it still has another year before it expires phew! Timber was actually still using this car seat up until a few weeks before we had Hoyt, we figured we needed to give her a few weeks to get used to it being called the baby seat and not being hers anymore before he got here! We did the switch when we bought our Sequoia. I don't think I posted about that, we have been trying to sell our car for several months with no luck. We decided to also sell the truck since it had bucket seats in the front so that we could find a truck with 6 seats. Shortly after the truck sold I saw a Sequoia for sale on facebook, we have always wanted a Sequoia, and had been looking for one. Ben found a few that he wanted but they were all up north so hadn't been able to see them. He was going to look at one when he went up to the hunt expo, but I think it didn't end up working out for them to be able to get together. So when we found this Sequoia we were pleasantly surprised to see that it was listed in Toquerville! And it was a little less expensive than the others we had been looking at. Ben ended up going and test driving it, and it worked great and was just what we were wanting and for the price we wanted to pay! And when we went to pick it up (which was my first time seeing it in person, people think I'm crazy for that, but I trust Ben's judgement completely, so I wasn't worried about it) we found out that the people we were buying it from had once lived in Kanab and my dad had been his scout leader, small world!
My parents brought our kiddos over shortly after we got home. We had to tell Aspen to stay a ways away from Hoyt since she was still sick, and she wouldn't get to hold him until she was better. She was so sweet about it and was really good about staying a safe distance away even though she really wanted to snuggle him!
Hunter checking out his brother, they all think he's pretty cool!
Timber selfie! This cute girl is officially a big sister!! She has handled it pretty well, she does wish she could have my lap anytime she wants it, but will share it pretty well with her baby brother!
It took me over a year to finally write this post! For months now I kept thinking I need to just do it, but it was such an emotional experience for me that it was hard to think of writing it. Putting words to the emotions I felt, just felt daunting. I'm so glad I finally got Hoyt's story written up though! We love this little guy so much and are so happy he's a part of our family!